Nowhere Boy
My husband bought "Nowhere Boy"a few weeks ago. I knew Allysa wanted to watch it but we had not had time to see it together. Trying to find 2 hours where we both had the patience to watch a movie...
View ArticleHigh School Drama
This past week has been full of heartbreaks and drama for each of my kids. I know you might be shocked but none of this had to do with adoption. I'm sure everyone thinks I eat sleep, and breath...
View ArticleI'm not a saint I'm not a whore
Last night my husband and I went to his alumni reunion. At his elementary/Jr high school (K - 8) they have an annual reunion for all alumni during their fall festival. My husband went to a private...
View ArticleFamilies and Acceptance
Last week my mother-in-law took Allysa out shopping and to dinner. My mother-in-law has known about Allysa since my husband and I got married. I never kept Allysa a secret from her. We never talked...
View ArticleI almost missed this
First of all I am so grateful for the connection Allysa and I have. I do not know how to explain why I was lucky enough to be in a good no make that a great reunion. I do not know why we were both...
View Articlemy beloved agency....
About a month ago Allysa and I went to LDSFS. We are trying to get her adoption file opened and see if they are able to also help to get her OBC. I hadn't heard back so last Thursday I called. I was...
View ArticleI spoke too soon
I received a phone call this afternoon from LDSFS. They had a copy of Allysa's OBC and her adoption decree in her adoption file. Since Allysa already knows who I am they just sent over the file by...
View ArticlePositive Adoption Language
I just wanted to dissect the PAL that I found hereBefore I get into each section I wanted everyone to see it. My next few posts will be about PAL. After reading this it leaves me wondering who the...
View ArticleAdoptive parents=Real Parents
Positive Adoption Language #1. The adoptive parents are the “real” parents. The real parents are the grown-ups who will take care of the child every day and for the rest of their lives. When referring...
View ArticleWRA - my thoughts
My daughter was sent to West Ridge Academy. Was she rebellious? Absolutely. Was she anymore rebellious than either me or my siblings? Not really. What was the problem then? She was raised by...
View ArticleNatural/biological/birth
We often hear biological parents of children referred to as the “natural” parents. This negatively implies that there is something unnatural about being an adoptive parent. Biological parents should...
View ArticleOwn Child
3. Adoptive families do not refer to their own children as an adopted child, a natural child, or my own child (meaning biological or by birth). All children in families are the parent’s own...
View ArticleWas/IS adopted
4. Adoption is an event that happened in a child’s life when the child joined his or her family. Using positive adoption language, notice use of verb tense. The child “was” adopted indicates that the...
View ArticleFamily pictures and the craziness
Saturday my mother-in-law wanted family pictures taken professionally. She had planned this about 2 weeks in advance. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend were coming up from Southern California for...
View ArticleJust thinking
This morning I went in and looked in the girls room. They both love to sleep in and are pretty grumpy when you wake them up. I just let them sleep as long as I can on weekends. I quietly opened...
View ArticleFast Forward
It is coming up on my 18th wedding anniversary in about a week and a half. How have I been married that long? How is it possible? Today November 15, 2009 was my first contact with Allysa via...
View ArticleFast Forward
Yesterdays post basically covered one year of our reunion. I left off at September 2010. In December 2010 Allysa went to Hawaii with her boyfriend and 2 days after they got back he broke up with her....
View Article2 great posts
I was navigating adoptoland on the internet today. I found 2 really great posts. I admit it I love to read what adoptees have to say about adoption. For me to understnd my daughter and grandson I...
View ArticleTo my kids
Sunday was a really bad, horrible, awful parenting day. My emotions were out of wrack and I handled every situation with my kids badly horribly. Usually I try my best, sometimes (or a lot of times) I...
View ArticleThanksgiving
Thanksgiving was amazing. For the first time ever I had all of my kids together. It was L-O-U-D and they were rambunctious, there was laughter and even a little bit of arguing. But I had all of my...
View ArticleDirty Little Secret
I just read 2 good blogs with comments. The first is FMF and the second is Living Life. Go read them and then come back. This might take a while. Of course both of these are written by mothers...
View ArticleDec 6 birthdays
Today is my oldest nieces birthday, she turned 24 December 6. I know my sister had a very difficult time when she had Cheri. Shana was just 16 years old and still going to high school. She did end...
View ArticleWild Ride weekend
It has been quite a wild ride this weekend. My emotions were a little erratic. Friday Cassie had her orchestra performance and it was the first big one Allysa was able to see. I had seen Iadoptees...
View ArticleReality TV or a day in my laugh
I started writing this post December 15th but I have been way too busy to finish it.My kids always say that our life is funnier, crazier, and more dramatic than any reality TV show ever on. They will...
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